I got my [31F] boyfriend [29M] a job where I work and he is underperforming which is putting strain on my job and our relationship

My boyfriend fell on hard times when the pandemic hit and lost the only really good job he’s ever had.

I heard about an opening at work and had an opportunity to recommend him before it became publicly listed and everyone on earth was scrambling for it.

I hesitated to mix work life and personal but we’ve been dating for 4 years and are planning to move in together so it’s important for our financial future that he have a job and can be saving.

So I made the arrangements and it was all fine at first. The people at work liked him and he liked the people at work.

But things quickly started sliding downhill. He was half-assing tasks and being short with clients and because I recommended him for the job, every time he failed at something, it splashed back on me reputationally.

Now he isn’t showing up for a bunch of shifts. The supervisor is keeping him on because we’re dating (even though I said that’s not a necessary accommodation) and I feel so embarrassed that he isn’t taking this job more seriously.

I’ve talked to him about it repeatedly and he always has an excuse (car wasn’t working, too stressed that day, mixed up his schedule, etc.) but after a certain point you need to grow up and handle your business.

This is a source of a lot of tension and fighting within our home life now and while my lesson is learned about mixing personal and work, it’s too late, he’s there. He won’t quit and isn’t getting fired soon enough for me to run out the clock.

Any advice much appreciated.

tl;dr - I got my boyfriend a job where I work and he is terrible at the job, because he isn’t trying. This is putting strain on our relationship. Help?

Submitted April 09, 2021 at 06:45PM by PursuedPine https://ift.tt/3uF8jEk