Me (28 f) and my boyfriend (29 m) have been dating for 1 year. We are both engineering graduate students in the same town. We have had a great and loving relationship so far and have connected on so much. It’s been the best relationship I’ve had and we share similar goals and values, and have fun together. Unfortunately, in about a year, we will both be graduating, with the likelihood being very great that we would have our starting jobs/training in different states. We both don’t have complete control over our placements due to the types of programs we are entering in our respective fields. I expressed I was willing to make it work, factor his location into my decision, and be open to doing long distance until it can feasibly be closed (I could get a job near him again). I know it is hard with LDRs but I am willing to try because I think our relationship is that special (ie potentially marriage one day). He expressed his fear about a LDR and that he would be very busy in his new position when he moves, and he didnt know if he wanted to consider where my job is on his decision. It was disheartening and we left off in a bad place. Is this doomed? Can we discuss the LDR possibility or does his hesitancy show this will not work? How do you have a conversation about long distance when its not soon, and also when someone has fear about it?
TLDR: SO and I will most likely be in different places in a year. He is not keen on long distance but I am. Is there a way to communicate on this before giving up?
Submitted April 10, 2021 at 08:11AM by SpiritualSea5120 https://ift.tt/3t9VVM8
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