I [M21] found out my girlfriend [F22] has slept around in the past. I want to get over this.

I [M21] have been seeing my girlfriend [F22] for about 5 months now.

First off, I know that how I'm feeling is completely irrational. I have no right to judge her based on her past, especially since we've been only dating for such a short period of time. I also know that this is a problem that a lot of people talk have as I can find so many posts of couples in a similar situation. So instead, I wanted to ask how I could get over the negative feelings I feel about her past hookups. I really want to get over this and I know that I wouldn't want to break up over something like this. I just need some advice on how I can look past this and be content with how things are going right now.

For more context, she's my first girlfriend and I'm her first boyfriend. The difference is that I'm a virgin and she's had several sexual encounters in the past (I don't want to ask for the number).

The two hookups that I'm most hung up on was one where she had a FWB with the guy that she still contacts regularly and is her best friend (she's told me that she sees him as a brother). I believe her but it feel so weird to hear her talk about him, even when we're being close. Like when I touch her neck, she'll tell me "Bob would love you, he does that to me all the time because he knows I'm so ticklish". I understand that they've been friends since forever, but comments like that just kill me on the inside and she doesn't even know it.

The other guy is actually someone who's friends with a couple of people in my friend group, but I don't talk to very often myself. I don't think he's a good person; he previously got his ex pregnant, then immediately ditched that relationship. She says she doesn't think he's a good person either and that hookup "just happened" and was a year ago. That just made me dislike him even more because it felt like he just used her and she was okay with it.

She's talked about other hookups she's had before that I'm not so hung up on and that I don't care to ask about. I wanted to know if she used protection, but I think the answer would make me physically sick to my stomach either way so I never ask. I know she'd never cheat on me, so that's not what I'm worried about. I'm not even insecure about my sexual ability. I'm not entirely sure what's making me feel like shit, just that I am and it's completely irrational to assume that ANY of my partners would have no sexual history. I know I'm in the wrong here, and that I have the wrong mindset. I try not to be a possessive or insecure boyfriend so it's emotions that I need to just process myself. So once again, I'm wondering if anyone has advice to get over these feelings.

TLDR: Feel bad about GF's previous sexual encounters, want to know how to get over it.

Submitted February 18, 2021 at 12:57AM by CollegeGroupWorker https://ift.tt/2LZd4HU