I have been dating a 42 year old woman for 1.5 years and we have just started the experiment of living together temporarily for the last 1 month. When we met, she told me she had just decided to put her process of IVF on hold to see if our relationship would work out. I told her that I did not have immediate goals to have a child, but perhaps in the future it is something that could come up.
Fast forward to now, after having our relationship continue to grow, and giving it a chance to try living together, she has told me that she will be starting IVF in two months. Starting IVF after a family trip with her parents. I am incredibly uncomfortable as she has told her friends and family she is starting the IVF before I was made aware and I am now to be forced to interact with them. I am considering not going on the trip because of the awkward situation I am to be put in surrounding this.
We did not discuss the IVF, but she has moved forward with this decision without my input. I told her I am not ready to be a father and that I do not know what to do, as I really care about her and don't want to end the relationship. I am torn, as I don't see it would be appropriate for me to continue in the relationship, and I also feel guilty for leaving her as she chooses to do this now. I realize there is a chance it may not work, but I think it is ethically wrong to stay with her with the hope it does not work out. I also don't think it would be right to stay with her without the intent of raising a child that she may have.
She is really sad as I am, and she is trying to convince me that we can stay together and that the child would be hers, but I don't believe that is appropriate either. I don't see any other option but to end the relationship but am just looking for any advice on how something like this may be navigated. It is really overwhelming.
**TL;DR;** : GF is starting IVF without my support Submitted February 17, 2021 at 02:59PM by answermyquestions99 https://ift.tt/2NHBXbu
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