I [31F] have asked my grandmother [77F] to stop talking about politics around me. She's constantly pushing my boundaries.

The title pretty much says it all. My grandmother and I have similar political views, but the big difference is that she wants to talk about politics 100 percent of the time. It's becoming an echo chamber. When she speaks about politics, she gets angry and defensive, even though I share her political views. I am so tired of hearing it ALL. THE. TIME.

So I put my foot down. I told her I was done talking politics with her. For her part, the topic has come up less, too. The problem is that she keeps pushing my boundaries. I have told her again and again that political discussions also include politicians themselves, etc. When I reinforce my boundaries, she gets defensive and says things like, "Man, you need help. There's something wrong with your reaction here." Or she'll start to throw a pity party and say things like, "You never want to talk with me. Every time I try to say something, you rush out of the room."

Granted, I am no angel here. For example, she brought up a politician who is facing charges over his handling of the pandemic. I immediately said in a loud, firm voice that "I don't give a fuck." Bad move, I know. I should've said "I don't want to discuss this with you." I think the result of her being offended would've been the same, but possibly less intense.

We have sat down and spoken about this before. I have told her that I don't want to discuss these topics with her, that I don't like her reaction when we discuss these topics, that she needs to respect my boundaries, etc. She asks me why I don't want to talk about politics with her and I give her an honest answer each time (sometimes I have to cool down and collect myself before I can speak earnestly, though), but each time she bends that boundary she will revert to, "Why are you like this?"

It makes everything I have tried to express and share feel meaningless. I feel like she doesn't care about my boundaries and I am at my wit's end. I am tired of having this turn into a fight.

I did come up with a solution to just end the conversation by saying, "I don't want to discuss this with you," rather than reacting strongly like I did with our most recent argument, but I am unsure how well this will work. She has a tendency to fight for the final word and she follows me from room to room to keep the conversation going. Any advice on how to handle this situation is appreciated!

TLDR: My grandmother does not respect my wishes about discussing politics. I have tried to express my reasons and feelings to her, but it never sinks in.

EDIT: Just did some quick introspection and I was being dramatic in the title. She has gotten better with her pushing and it isn't constant. We just had a big blow-out and I was letting that color my wording as I created the title.

2nd Edit: Thanks for the feedback, folks. I am taking it under consideration and I appreciate the varying insight I have received.

Submitted February 17, 2021 at 06:17PM by Wrathporter https://ift.tt/3jWIX0x