How do I (24 F) tell my bigoted roommate (25 M) that the rest of us (20s, M/F) don't want to renew a lease with him?

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Me and all my roommates are all graduate students and the hunt for housing for the next academic year starts around next month. The original plan was that all four of us would stick together and find a new place once the lease for our current place ends.

Well, one of my roommates "John" is a bigot. Not like crazy MAGA level, but his views are harmful and he's made it clear he isn't willing to consider other perspectives. It's almost comical that he is so blatantly racist, sexist, and homophobic/transphobic to his queer brown roommate (me). John waters down these views when he talks to our other roommates, so at first I hesitated to tell them how I felt for fear I would be told I'm overreacting and that John is just conservative. I've already tried talking to John about the things he says and I have made it clear that he makes me uncomfortable when he says something bigoted, but he'll just shrug and say "well, I'm from Georgia" (as if there aren't queer people of color in Georgia??). It is honestly so exhausting trying to teach someone who doesn't want to learn, and it's worse that he purposefully only forces me to listen to his BS but is more or less harmless to our white roommates.

It got worse over the winter break and it was just too much for me. I told my other roommates that I was planning on leaving the group once the lease ends because John makes me so incredibly uncomfortable. Turns out that my other roommates didn't like that he was doing that to me, and they said that they'd rather the three of us move on without John. I've already started looking for places and the three of us are all excited to move, but none of us know how to tell John that he isn't welcome to join us when we move.

It's going to be awkward no matter what because even if we don't tell him the reason why, it'll be clear that we don't want to be around him. There is no easy way to say it, but none of us even know HOW to say it let alone say it nicely. I'll probably be the person to break the news to him and I doubt my other roommates would let me do it alone, but I don't know what to say??? I doubt I'm the only person who has gone through this, so I'm just hoping for some advice and suggestions about what I should do.

tl;dr: my roommate is a bigot, I'm a minority. How do me and my open minded roommates tell the bad apple he can't renew a lease with us?

Submitted February 18, 2021 at 05:32PM by DogsParty https://ift.tt/3azr0lC