We have been dating almost 3 years, he has lived with me in my home for most of that time. He lived with his parents when we met, and they were planning on downsizing into a house where there was no space for him, so I let him move in with me since I knew he wouldn't be able to afford to get a place of his own. My space is a small studio. I pay most of the bills and do most of the chores, no big deal.
My boyfriend is great, I love and adore him and I know the feeling is mutual. However, he is so concerned that I'm going to cheat on him. He's been cheated on in the past and is still traumatized by it. I understand, I've been cheated on before and have been abused- honestly some of the things he has done/said have been so similar to things my past abuser had done/said that it concerns me, but in his case it seems like it truly is just an intense fear of me cheating on him. It's just him getting upset about things that haven't happened just because he says they COULD happen and then making me feel bad about these hypothetical things. I love him and have no intention of cheating on him or leaving him for any reason other than if he were to cheat on me. I have also never given him any reason to distrust me or think that I'm being unfaithful. He just gets so fixated on these hypothetical scenarios and is so paranoid about them.
Anyways, recently I was on our shared computer and went to check my email. His email account was still up and I noticed right on top was a receipt from Amazon. He's always broke and we already did our Christmas gift exchange so I wonder what the hell he's spending money on- turns out he ordered a spy camera. He once brought up getting a camera to install in the house, although his argument was that it would make him feel better if he could see what I'm doing when he's away at work and I'm at home alone. I said I didn't know how I felt about that, but that a camera could be useful for when we are away from home to catch any burglars or whatever else. We agreed to drop it and discuss it again later. Now I see that he bought one without telling me- no doubt because of his delusional fears about me being unfaithful. I'm not thrilled with the idea of him spying on me in my own home. I plan to wait and see if he mentions anything about it when the camera arrives, but I'm not sure if that's the right way to go about this. Should I just bring it up now? Thanks in advance for any insights.
Tl;dr: Boyfriend is paranoid I will cheat on him. I discovered that he bought a spy camera without my knowledge and likely plans on using it to spy on me in my house. Not sure how to approach the situation.
Submitted January 03, 2021 at 05:37PM by TwiztidBizkit https://ift.tt/3n7pcTH
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