Hi all,
I (28 F) have currently been with my bf (29 M) for almost 8 years now. He is great overall, I mean the most caring, sweet, hardworking and honest guy there is but there is one huge problem i have been battling since we moved in together 2 years ago.
His brain.
He is so forgetful, it is insane. I am the complete opposite of this, and can remember the tiniest of details. He, on the other hand, will forget something you JUST told him.
i.e I told him about a mutual friend from college getting engaged seemingly out the blue. We spent a short time reminiscing about all of us hanging out and how it was such a shock...a month later, he says he ran into the same person at the supermarket and you know what he says to me? “Hey, guess who I saw? Sallie! Did you know she was engaged now?” I started laughing until i realized he wasnt joking....things like this happen constantly.
Another example is him asking what I want from a store or restaurant and coming back with something completely different. For example, i wanted cranberry juice from the store and he came back with a weird cran-pineapple juice i never even realized existed. Or when i asked for lo mein from our local chinese restaurant and he came back with rice INSISTING thats what I said...it drives me NUTS
I also feel like he does not pay attention at all, which leads him to the forgetfully or just plain ol’ embarrasses me. For example, if we are in a group setting talking, he constantly repeats a point someone just said without realizing it...we all laugh but for me, it’s more of a cringe because it happens so often. One time in early april, i told him I was going to start my diet the day after my bday (April 30) because i wanted cake and he said I should start sooner....I said how soon? He said I should start the 1st.....i was like huh?? He was like May 1st.....and I literally just sat there and stared at him...he has never forgotten my birthday or anything like that so I was just so confused
Lastly, its always up for me to remember something. Paying the bills, running errands, finding his keys, finding his wallet, you name it! If I don’t double check every little thing, it will not be done correctly or done at all.
overall, it makes me feel like I can’t trust him with important things which i HATE. I remember telling him (after we heard about the tragic incident of a father leaving his two boys in the car) that i fear one day he would do the same and he was SUPER offended. I felt bad for saying it but i honestly have that fear....
Anyone else struggle with this? I’m guessing he has ADD and have even suggested it to him but he shrugs away the possibility.
Anyone having any coping mechanisms? I love him I really do but this is killing me softly.
tl;dr : i need advice on how to deal with my bf’s forgetfulness
Submitted December 01, 2020 at 05:22PM by ElleTee23 https://ift.tt/3fXyyzr
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