TL;DR Husband and I are expecting our first child, he comes form an abusive neglectful home and I do not want him mother involved.
My husband (29M) of almost two years and I (29F) are expecting our first child at the end of February. As the time comes closer I am getting extremely worried about his family. He for the most part does not have a lot of contact with them. He came from an abusive and neglected home. One of five children and they wouldn’t even buy him shoes when he needed new ones. They would always threaten to send him away and tell him they will give him up for adoption. According to him, his mother got better over the years but she is still married to his father who is still abusive. Out of the five children he is the only successful one,( older sister drug addict, older brother alcoholic, and younger two sisters 25 and 28 both still living in the house with the parents) which has caused a lot of hate from them towards us. We have already agreed that his father will never meet our son. But he wants his mother involved. I do not trust her. She would regularly watch our dog and he always had something “medically wrong” with him. He has dietary issues and is on special food which she refused to give him. She would give him medication he didn’t need and honestly it was horrible. She “raises” her four other grandchildren because his brother doesn’t and if they were to get taken by CPS she wouldn’t be deemed fit to take them. My father who comes from a similar background and family said that he should change his mind once the baby is here, which is what happened to him. But honestly I’m stressing about it. His father likes to control and stalk his mother. Always knowing where she is going and will follow her around their town (we live 40 mins away). The thought of him showing up freaks me out. Any advice on this? He got extremely upset when I said I did not trust her.
Submitted December 04, 2020 at 11:05AM by mla110v https://ift.tt/2JTDHwo
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