Throwaway for obvious reasons and I apologize in advance if the formatting is off as I am on mobile.
I (18F) have been been with my boyfriend, J (18M), for three months, the relationship is still new so I'm not entirely sure how to handle this situation. I don't even know if this is an issue, it just simply baffles me.
Whenever, wherever, with whoever, he will just bring up my miscarriage. I brought it up early on in the relationship as I am still struggling with the loss a lot (even though it has been over a year), but I am beginning to regret telling him.
Sometimes we will be sitting alone privately and he asks what I thought she would have looked like, what I was going to name her, etcetera. I don't mind these questions, especially when we are just sitting alone together and smoking a joint. It's good to talk about it every once in a while. It's during these times that he brings up our possible future children and it seems to be a cheer up method of his after my distress while talking about the baby.
On the other hand, he will bring it up inappropriately. If pregnancy comes up while he is talking about his buddies, everyone there is then informed that I've lost a child. One time he even brought it up in the middle of sex, just started asking questions about what I thought it would be like and whether or not I'd ever want to try again.
He just brings it up at random, around people that I barely know, and during times where we should be having some fun time.
I've asked him why he brings it up so much, he always just shrugs and tells me that he doesn't know.
What is going through his head? He always says that he will try to be more mindful about the timing when he wants to talk about it, yet he just seems to blurt out these questions.
TL:DR; My boyfriend keeps bringing up my miscarriage at inappropriate times and I have no idea why
Submitted July 04, 2020 at 10:03PM by throw-away1233456789 https://ift.tt/3dVuiOo
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