My girlfriend just found out my family is wealthy and gives me a lot of money. Now she's mad cause we still split the bills 50/50.

Throwaway cause my friends follow my main account and I don't want them to know about this. I posted this on AITA but figured I needed advice more than I needed judgement.

Background: My grandparents (maternal) are very wealthy. My grandpa is a lawyer and owns one of the biggest firms in our city and my grandma comes from old money and owns several properties. My dad is a lawyer too and my mom is a SAHM. My older sister and I are their only grandkids so we're trust fund babies and we also get a substantial stipend we get monthly. My parents and I don't really dress like rich people (I wear Uniqlo hoodies and beat-up sneakers) but my sister loves designer stuff (important for later).

So I (21m) have been living with my GF (22f) since January. We've been together since February of last year. She's taking her pre med and I'm an engineering student. We both work and have split the living expenses 50/50. She met my parents last year and she knows my dad is a lawyer so she wasn't too surprised when she found out my college was already paid for. She hasnt met my sister in person yet though (only in Zoom) cause she's studying law on the other side of the country. I think it's worth noting that my girlfriend comes from a poor family. She's the first one who went to college and she worked hard to get a partial scholarship. She has taken out student loans and her family helps her out a bit with the tuition fees.

So it was my birthday yesterday. Cause of quarantine, we had to stay home and celebrate ourselves. A few family members called, including my sister, who said I should expect a package today. Also, I'd like to point out that my sister spoils me. We are very close and she likes to take the "baby brother" thing a bit too far sometimes lol. So we open my gift and... Wow. She got me the latest iPhone, several hoodies from Off-White and BAPE, and 2 pairs of Yeezys. She also included a personal bday card which, to be honest, was what I liked the most.

My girlfriend was shocked and asked me how she could afford it (the while gift was probably more than $4k altogether). She recognized the brands cause one of our buddies is a sneakerhead who likes to show off his outfits on Instagram and brags about the price to us in person. I told her that she probably used her allowance and that she does love to spend on stuff like these for herself. She asked me if I get an allowance too and I nodded. She asked me how much I was getting and I, reluctantly, told her. It was more than what we both made combined. I told her I don't touch the money cause I didn't feel like I needed or deserved it and the college tuition was already more than enough of a head start in life. She called me an A for still asking her to split the living expenses despite how privileged I am and how much she and her family had to struggle for money. I told her I understood that she struggles but that for me it wasn't my money and wanted to make it on my own. We went back and forth till she locked herself in the room.

I called my sister afterwards and she told me that while I wasn't at fault, maybe I should start using what our grandparents gave us. I'm sorry if my sister comes across as materialistic btw, she really isn't. She likes to spend but she's also one of the nicest people out there. Not just to me but to everyone.

The thing is that my family is very much against us financially helping SOs or friends. My sister took a friend who couldn't afford it to Vegas once for girls night and my grandparents weren't happy. When I was about 13, my grandpa gave me the talk about money and how I should be careful when I start dating cause if people know my family is wealthy, I'd attract a lot of gold diggers.

I haven't touched the money. I don't feel like it's mine. I don't know what to do with it but at the moment, I'm really uncomfortable with spending any of it. And yes, money still keeps coming in. I also already have a trust fund so that's covered too. I guess I could use the money for living expenses and work to help my GF? I don't know. Guys, I don't know what to do. Shes still crying in the room and won't open the door. I feel like a shit boyfriend and it sucks. I know she wasn't with me for the money cause she didn't know I had it until today.

Any advice? How do I fix this?

Oh and if you say prenup... Yeah, way ahead of you. No matter who my sister or I marry, we won't be able to get our inheritance without singing a prenup. Even my parents have one.

TL/DR: GF found out my family is loaded and gives me a substantial amount of money. She's mad cause we still split the bills 50/50. What should I do?

Submitted June 25, 2020 at 04:19AM by RobotOverlord3769 https://ift.tt/2VfcCqk