This is such a weird situation and I don't freaking know what's going on or what to do.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 10 months. Right now he's staying at my place due to being on sick leave and the Corona situation.
After we had been dating for about two months he introduced me (online, over chat) to a friend of his, another trans girl (I am trans) who he thought I'd get along with since we're both trans girls and we shared some interests. We started chatting and got along great. She lives in a city that's kinda near, but not near enough to go there for a random trip. I've been chatting with her to and fro since, and we planned to meet during Christmas. However, something came up and she couldn't make it. We planned to meet at an event in late February, but it got canceled due to Corona. I'm not much for voice chatting, so I haven't talked to her even once, only written chats. This is normal for me. Over time, I got to know her fairly well, and occasionally talked with her about my relationship with my boyfriend. Hey, why not, she knows him and has known him for longer than I have. Maybe I can learn something about him from her.
A few times, my boyfriend would mention something I had been talking about with her just one or two days prior and I thought it was weird, but disregarded it as mere coincidence. It didn't happen often enough to warrant suspicion.
Then today, just an hour or two after chatting with her about her new girlfriend, I happened to catch a glance at my boyfriends iPad when he had discord open. I saw her icon in the chat, nothing weird, maybe he chatted with her too, but... I also saw what I thought was my profile pic in the chat. Now that's weird. And my boyfriend tabbed out of discord very quickly.
A little later, he went to the bathroom without locking his iPad (which is again completely normal) and I decided to take a look. I opened discord, and logged in... Is her. She is logged in on his iPad. The conversation I saw was the one we had had just prior.
I felt like I had been punched in the gut. I took a screenshot to send to myself and as I did I noticed some other pictures in his album. The picture of the girlfriend that was just sent. And the picture it was cropped from. I also saw a picture of her in the album. I sent all of them to me, saved them on my phone and then deleted them from the chat, (and deleted the screenshot from the album) so my boyfriend wouldn't notice.
Later, when he was taking a nap, I started googling stuff.
I dug up an older picture she has sent of herself, and put them all through Google. One of the selfies, no hits. The other selfie. So. Many. Hits. This picture had been posted all over the internet it seemed, often on sites categorizing it as "cross dressing" or "trap". Similar result when I searched the full picture of the girlfriend. Seems like that's some porn actress.
So. My boyfriend has constructed this person in order to... I don't know? Talk with me about our relationship while pretending to be someone else?
My boyfriends ex lives in the same town as this girl, and according to my bf the ex has been a real jerk since they broke up. Now the creepy part is that this girl has "reported" on things his ex has been doing to mess with him, like getting him banned from a game store in that town. So all those things must be things he's made up and told me through her?
I feel like I don't know who I'm dating anymore. If he can make up a whole person (including making a social media page for her) well enough to keep me fooled for 8 months, what else has he been lying about?? We were planning to move in together after this summer and now I don't know what to do.
I'm confused and honestly terrified. He's never showed aggressive tendencies but if he wanted to he could easily kill me becuaweof how much stronger he is. I'm scared to confront him about it.
TL;DR: I just found out that one of our common friends is a fabrication of my boyfriend. She doesn't exist. He's been fooling me for 8 months. What do I do??
Submitted June 03, 2020 at 07:56AM by i_am_totes_anon https://ift.tt/2BvXjml
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