My boyfriend and I have been together for 18 months now. I am very liberal, and he doesn't talk much about his politics though he has always was more on the conservative side. We try not to talk politics much because our views can be quite divergent on some issues.
We live together, and ever since what happened in Minneapolis he's had a short fuse. Whenever I have the news on with people talking about BLM his temper starts up and he goes on a rant about how organizations like BLM hold black people down. When I tell him that BLM exists to prevent innocent black men from being unfairly killed by cops he retorts by saying that every single "victim" (his words, not mine) was a thug who deserved it and gives black people like him a bad name.
The looting has really put him off. He curses quite a bit whenever it's brought up by me or someone else and blames it on absentee fathers (he grew up with a single mother who lives across the country now).
I am honestly a bit annoyed by this. He is entitled to his views of course but I think BLM is an organization fighting for justice and want to support the cause (given it will protect him whether he wants it to or not, as well as other innocents).
Things sort of came to a head when I said I wanted to go to a protest. He point blank told me I was brainwashed if I went to one, and that he would not be joining me. I was very hurt and offended but don't know how to react.
I get I should be deferring to him on this given he is black, but does it still apply if he is against the movement as a whole?
TL;DR: My boyfriend is a black conservative who hates BLM and does not want me involved in it. How do I balance deferring to him on this with pursuing activism that I care about?
Submitted June 05, 2020 at 04:09PM by throwxaway4521 https://ift.tt/3cE1Gs8
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