My (F 25) boyfriend (M 28) told me that he wanted me to loose weight. I'm not sure whether to stay or leave at this point.

I started dating my boyfriend about a year ago . He's overall a good guy. But he was overly honest and blunt about things that didn't seem necessary early on in our relationship . On one occasion, somehow, he brought up, the fact that he didn't find my body completely attractive. I managed to get over that after he told me that there were so many other qualities he liked about me. Recently, this came up. Because it's been difficult for me to fully forget and just overcome, I'll think about it when we are intimate or when he holds me etc. I finally pushed ( partly my fault) and asked what about my about at the time did he want to change or was so bad. He reluctantly told me he wanted me to loose weight.

Currently I haven't gained any weight since we started dating. I've actually lost weight. I'm not obese but I'm not super tiny. My doctor has told me that I'm okay the way I am but if I want to loose some extra weight I can. I would like to loose weight but I've had bulimia in the past and been hospitalized for eating disorders multiple times. I want to be careful. It's been hard to accept that's how he thought he though it's in the past. Logically I know it's been some time but I feel somewhat embarrassed, and angry. It caused a huge argument and I don't know if I should try reconciling with him. I get wanting a specific body type but I don't understand dating someone who isn't what you want and judging them for that.

TL;DR; Boyfriend revealed to me he wanted me to loose weight when we began dating and now I feel insecure around him. I'm not sure if I should end the relationship

Submitted April 24, 2020 at 02:11PM by unc-20201 https://ift.tt/2xPqAHg