Good Morning Reddit,
My wife and I have been having a rough time over the last few years and I’m at my wits end....Maybe my expectations need to be adjusted, but it just doesn’t feel right.
So we’ve been married for more than five years and have two kids (3 & 0.5)that are the absolute greatest thing in my life. We’re both working professionals with great jobs, and my wife has been on Mat leave for the last six months.
Like anyone, our relationship has had ups and downs. There will be periods where things are great - we’re engaged in conversation, enjoy each other physically, etc etc. In this latest valley, we’re barely interacting with each other; essentially roommates that get through our time together. Week nights are spent with the kids - dinner, bath, bedtime. Once the kids go to bed we have maybe 5-10 minutes together before she begins her nighttime routine and watches tv in our bedroom.
Conversation is extremely limited, and even the mildest physical contact (kiss hello after work) makes me feel like nuisance.
I’ve tried to bring up my concerns in a respectful way, but her indifference to the situation and “I can’t help that I’m tired all the time” response usually leads to me getting angry and withdrawing further for several days.
I’m at my wits end - the constant rejection and indifference is crushing me; and there’s no improvement in sight.
So I guess essentially I’m asking.. Is this normal for people with young kids? Am I being selfish?
TL;DR: I feel like my wife and I are roommates. She thinks I’m too selfish/needy.
Submitted February 09, 2020 at 04:16AM by RecentAir9 https://ift.tt/2viWvy9
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