My ex is a very difficult, angry person. He has a paranoid streak and is very suspicious of basically everyone he meets, including his parents and myself. I left him a year ago, we have two kids. When we were together I always had a good relationship with my in laws and we visited them once a week. Now that we've divorced my ex does not want the kids around his parents anymore. I don't know what exactly the issue is now, but he always had issues with them (how much TV they let the kids watch, the kind of food they offered etc). I have no problem with these things.
They've asked me if they could see their grandkids on the days I have them. My kids miss them. This would be a no-brainer, except - my ex is a very, very difficult person. If he found I went behind his back (which he almost certainly will), he will be very angry. I have to deal with him once in a while obviously, and I am sort of dependent on him in that I have no family here and if I have an emergency and need someone to watch the kids for me, he is the only person I can turn to. I'm also glad he finally stopped sending me abusive messages.
Any advice? Can I justify going behind his back? I feel like the kids are the losers here, but to be honest I'm afraid of his anger.
TL;DR Ex is a very angry person who denies his parents access to our kids. I've always had a good relationship with them and they asked me to visit them with the kids. The kids miss them, but I'm a bit afraid of my ex. Help?
Submitted September 01, 2019 at 05:36AM by la_mimosa_perezosa https://ift.tt/2NJdMaU
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