Edit: 37F, 27M
On mobile, sorry if formatting is off.
In November of last year, in an emergency situation, I had to drive him home to pick up a vehicle from his Dad. 50 miles into the 70 mile drive he said to just drop him at the Walmart in town and he'd have his Dad come get him. I was confused and a little hurt. He said he didn't want my first time meeting his Dad to be "out of inconvenience" whatever that means. I let it go, but ever since I've had a nagging feeling his parents don't know I exist. He assures me they know about me.
In February of this year he happily flew with me to my hometown for my Dad's wedding. He met some of my family and it was a good weekend. He made no mention of meeting his family, even after he met mine. He goes home to visit about once a month, but I have never been invited.
I have brought it up a couple times recently but it always ends in an argument. He agrees it's time but he says it's awkward for him, and he has only brought 1 girl home before. Bringing her home was out of "absolute necessity" as she was going to live with his family or otherwise be homeless, and that relationship ended badly.
What felt like the last straw was last night. We were talking on the phone and he said he asked his Dad if he could bring a buddy over. His Dad said yes and ended up inviting a lot of other people and they're going to BBQ, it became a party. He knows I am off work that day and have no plans, but still I was not invited. I let him know this upset me and he just got angry that we were having this same argument again and he hung up. But, why would he tell me all that was happening then not invite me?
It's not that I have some great need to meet his family. But it feels overdue and his resistance to just getting it over with makes me feel like there is something seriously wrong. How can I get him to understand that meeting parents is a normal thing and it needs to get done when you're in a serious relationship, as he considers us to be?
TL;DR my boyfriend won't let me meet his family even after dating 1.5 years and after he has met my family. How do I get him to see my point of view here?
Submitted May 25, 2019 at 03:42PM by FLAMFOO_FLAMINGO http://bit.ly/2HBwTQG
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