My (20F) mom (45F) said she was disappointed in me due to my values despite my relative “success”. Is this average family conflict or signs of deeper issues?

Hey everyone. Like my title says, my mom has for the second time in a row expressed disappointed in me due to my political beliefs. Her actual words were: “I’m not disappointed in you, just in all the beliefs and values that you have. I had always wished that you would have come back to my side but you haven’t. You’ve decided your friends and professors were smarter than your family. So I’ve given up hope for now, but when I was your age I had the same beliefs and they changed when I got older.” So I told her that 1) I didn’t have different values necessarily, I just that I placed more emphasis on certain ones. 2) That her saying this hurt my feelings since values and beliefs make a person who they are. So I felt like she was essentially telling me that she was disappointed in who I was. After that, I told her I don’t want to talk about politics anymore because this is where the conversation always ends up. The first time we had this conversation over Winter break, after hearing all of this, she said sarcastically that she’ll just avoid talking about politics whenever I’m home in order to not hurt my feelings. Then she yelled at me because she said she felt attacked in her own home, and that she was upset because she couldn’t have free speech in her own house. Today, when we talked about this again, she said that she had no idea that her expressing her disappointment in me had made me feel hurt. She then promised again to never talk about politics again since it clearly hurt my feelings. She didn’t say it, but her words had the same vibe of her first reaction.

To be clear, I don’t mind talking about politics- I actually love it. I just don’t like it when my mom and dad both take personal shots at me. My goal was not to make her feel uncomfortable, but to stop the constant disagreements. Outside of politics, my parents have expressed a lot of pride in my academic and personal accomplishments. We also get along great, so to hear my mom say this stuff has been weird. Also just to note, I’m not the one who brings up political topics. Both of my parents bring them up often (2-3 times a day), especially ones they know I have a differing opinion about.

I actually have a couple of questions, the first one being: This type of political argument normal right? And does my reaction seem overblown, or am I justified in being concerned? For a while now I’ve had concerns about some manipulation that may or may not be going on, and I’d like to know if anyone else sees that too.

TL;DR: After a political disagreement, my (20F) mom (45F) has told me she is disappointed not in me, but all the values I have. Should I be concerned?

Edit: Many mistakes were made because I posted on mobile first. Also fixed one of my questions. Edit #?: Thanks for your input and support! I'll definitely take a few steps back from the situation, walk away when things get started, and set up some boundaries with my parents. I hope everyone has a good day :)

Submitted May 25, 2019 at 12:18PM by aubsvs http://bit.ly/2YRajsT