UPDATE My best friend [18F] and I [18M] drunkenly made out at a party, and I dont know what we are anymore

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I should start off by saying that I originally planned to bring this up with Ann later this year when I went to visit, since having the chat in person seemed like the way to go. She ended up bringing it up with me yesterday during a call, so it was her who took the initiative instead of me (oops)

Anyways, the long story short is that her perception of the situation was pretty similar to mine. She viewed us as just friends, and anything that happened while drunk was just "alcohol being alcohol". As I suspected, there legitimately was nothing consciously going on in our minds. I suspect it would have stayed this way had we not been separated by university.

The thing that became immediately obvious is that, while neither of us viewed each other as a "crush", being separated was quite painful to both of us. I mean sure, being separated from close friends is always tough. But this felt different, and that's what lead to a lot of the confusion. To both of us, it just felt like the separation made a whole in our lives that couldn't be filled. It was a long call filled with a ton of confusion, but in the end we decided to try out a relationship and see what happens. Maybe now, maybe later (not that it really matters until we see each other in person)

One thing I never really mentioned in my original post is that, even if a relationship goes south, I doubt it will result in us going our separate ways. This is mainly due to the fact that whatever feelings we have are a result of our long friendship, rather than the way around. The way I saw it was this: if the pain is just a result of us being close friends rather than anything more, we'll just go back to being friends. It's not really a big deal to either of us. But, if we do see each other as something more and don't act on it, that's probably going to cause issues in the long run.

Not really sure what else to add, other than a thanks to everyone who offered advice on my original post. This is a pretty short post so I guess I'll respond to some questions/comments this time before this throwaway gets abandoned

tldr: we'll give it a try when we have the time/visit, and since our feelings are the result of our friendship (rather than the other way around) even if it doesn't work out it should be fine.

Submitted October 01, 2018 at 10:20AM by WtfAreWeLmao https://ift.tt/2NYGO7P