First off, this isn't how it sounds, so I'll try to add some context. I've been with my wife since I was 21. We've been married for 3 years. She's going on her third trimester. I have been incredibly involved with during her pregnancy, done more than my fair share, and sacrificed a lot during an already stressful time (Finalizing the sale of a software to a tech powerhouse), and weed is one of the only ways I can relax. I'll explain.
I handle all of the meals. We usually split everything 50/50, but she's pregnant with twins and asked me to take over the house work. I did so without a problem. I cook almost everyday because she hates leftovers. I'm up at 3:30 to workout. I then cook her breakfast and prep dinner before getting ready to leave the house by 7. I come home and cook, clean up, do any of the house work she asks and sometimes get an early jump or work or the next day's meals.
I've never missed a doctors appointment. I do all the late night craving runs She has asked me to fry pickles, multiple times at 1 am. I've done it. I'm not some shithead stoner who doesn't care about his wife. I've driven hours away to get her what she's wanted, constantly made sure she's comfortable when I'm home and been there for her to lean on. I'm not some shithead father to be who doesn't care.
She's asked me to spend all my free time doing pre-baby stuff. She wanted a nursery built and I built it. I baby proofed our backyard. There's a swing set and a treehouse outside even though my kids won't be able to use it for three years. I've prepped and done everything she's asked me to do, and all I want to do at the end of a stressful day is smoke and get 15 minutes to myself. It's like I'm up 3 hours before the sun. I work my ass off and this sale is about to set us up for life. It's not like I'm not trying here.
She asked me to stop smoking and I don't want to. I don't have any other outlet. My workouts have gone to shit because I have to get in a home workout. I went out once and she berated me for leaving her alone when I was home by 11. She doesn't want to go out because she cares about her appearance and has admitted to feeling gross because of how big she is. As a result, she doesn't want me going out either. She asked me not to drink since she couldn't and I obliged. We haven't had sex since right after she found out she was pregnant. It's like what am I supposed to do? Am I bad person because I want to come home at the end of the day and smoke a joint outside sometimes?
We're in a legal state and her only rationale is that she can't smoke, so I shouldn't either. She tells me it's unfair for her to have to watch me go smoke knowing she can't. I offered to switch to vaping so she wouldn't smell it and she said it wasn't good enough. I said what about edibles and she was still angry. I'm over it. I don't drink. I don't go out. I don't have sex. I can't do anything Sometimes I need something for me.
I'm fed up. It's like I'm not getting appreciated for anything and she's taking away everything I enjoy despite me busting my ass for her. I understand she's going through the ringer and that most of this is hormones because she didn't act like this before she was pregnant, but holy fuck. It's like I can't get one thing to keep to myself.
TL;DR Pregnant wife asked me to stop smoking despite it being my only outlet due to her asking me to be home, taking care of her non-stop, and working full time. Her only rationale is that she can't smoke so she doesn't want me to either. I feel under appreciated for all the work I do and don't understand why it's so bad for me to come home and smoke outside after busting my ass all day.
Submitted October 01, 2018 at 08:34AM by Notabadhusband12 https://ift.tt/2Qmx2cm
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