I had been seeing this guy for about 3 months. Initially, he told me he wanted a girlfriend and was looking for a relationship. Things were great in the beginning, and then around month 2.5, I felt him losing the energy he was once putting into our "relationship". He never had time to see me, only talk on the phone. And he wasn't as flirty with me. When I asked him about it, he said he didn't like that we had the same group of friends (my friends kept warning me that he was a serial dater).
He also said he had mental health issues to work on and that being in a relationship would slow him down from achieving his goals. He said he loved talking to me and still wanted to be friends. I agreed to being friends, and I felt very mature doing so. I still had feelings for him though, and we still continued to sleep together. We wouldn't hang out or anything, though. Just talk on the phone and have sex. He told me he wasn't talking to or seeing anyone else because he was focusing on himself.
Fast forward a few weeks later, he is showing me a meme on his phone, and a text message from a girl pops up. The girl has 3 heart eye emojis next to her name. I ask him who she is, and he says she is an old friend that he used to talk to, but it's not like that anymore. He then shows me my name in his contact list. My name is spelled wrong, and I have one heart eye emoji next to my name. He shows me this and goes "see? You're my friend, and I have heart eye emojis for you, too." He continued to swear up and down that he wasn't seeing anyone else.
I ended up leaving because I felt upset. I looked up the girl's name on IG when I got home. She lived in a city that he had told me he was going to visit for new year's because he had family there. I blocked him because I felt lied to, and I didn't want to talk to him again. He ended up messaging me from a different number when he found out he was blocked. I told him why I blocked him (lying about seeing other people) and he said those women were just friends and that he's tired of having to explain himself to me when he's been nothing but honest to me.
Now, I keep going back and forth between feeling bad and feeling mad. Did I dodge a bullet or did I overreact to the situation?
Tl;dr: was seeing a guy for 3 months who then told me he wasn't ready for a relationship. We continued to be fwb. I suspected he was talking to other women, but he denied it. I felt like he was lying, so I blocked him.
Submitted January 09, 2022 at 09:10AM by PlantApprehensive514 https://ift.tt/33cVWGZ
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