My boyfriend asked if I could lend him some cash to fix his car. We barely got back together about 2 weeks ago. It makes me fear if we just got back together because he didn't have money to fix his car in the first place?

My boyfriend, Sean(30s) and I(20s) literally just got back about 2-3 weeks ago. Everything between us seem to be going great. Up until today, I'm starting to worry. At the time we got back together, Sean's car had already been broken down. It needed a new engine. He was telling me all about his new friend, Don, that they're super close. Don's willing to lend Sean money to fix his car. My boyfriend would always say how Don is such a nice person. Don would be using his credit card to help fund for the engine. Sean has saved up $3,000 already. But it may end up costing $4,000. He had to borrow his aunt $1,000, in order to have the $3,000 he currently has.

This morning over breakfast, Sean asked me if I can lend him $1000 in the event his car might cost more to fix. He was all stressed out about it today. He said I would much much rather borrow from my girlfriend than my friend. Because I told him to just ask Don.

I gave him a condition that if he were to use my credit card, he has to pay me back within 15 days because of the 25% interest fee. And even if he has to borrow Don's money, he would also have to pay him back interest too. Sean was saying how I was getting defensive because I told him I wasn't the one who blew up the car. I'm not an ATM. He was upset that he has to pay the $1,000 within two weeks because he said he could only do $500. Prior to this all happening, I did get my money back from my friend who I lent $4000 too. And he said what happened to that money. I had to tell him that I have insurance, auto insurance, and lots of big ticket bills too. Even though I live rent free.

At the end of this all, he said to me he just needed my support and comfort. That it'll all be okay. And I said, "I can help you with that. But in terms of money, that's the best offer I can give you. Take it or leave it." I have money that I could easily lend him but I don't want us to get into money fights. This is too early to even be dealing with this. What do you guys think I should do moving forward so we can have a long lasting relationship? I don't want us to fuck up again this time.

tl:dr- boyfriend asks me if I could lend him some money to fix his car because it's costing more than it should. makes me wonder if we just got back together because he just needs money to fix the car?? I know the car is his biggest hobby and it's everything to him. And this time around we got back together and stronger than ever. But this shit, really killed me. How do you guys think I should approach this?

Submitted May 06, 2021 at 04:44PM by itspazzy https://ift.tt/3nWdehP