My (27f) husband (32m) has changed drastically. We've had plenty of battles and hardships in our 8 long years of being together. He used to be so sweet and caring and accepting. Not just towards me but to everyone. A few years ago he started accusing me of sleeping with his brother. Someone said that BIL and I were just "too close to not be intimate" which i guess caused doubt. Id never do this and we mostly moved past it after therapy and counseling. However, since then he's been entirely insecure, to the point where he treats all males in my life terribly. I have a friend we will call M. M (30m) and I grew up together. Husband has known him the entirety of our relationship and used to get along well with him. The other day M was out and about walking when it started to rain. Being close to my house M stopped by and asked for a sweater to borrow. Husband told him absolutely not and that it was inappropriate to ask. M was embarrassed and left. Husband wasn't going to tell me anything about it but I ran into M later and he told me what happened. Husband confirmed that he just didn't want to provide a sweater to him. The thing is we have TONS of sweaters. And id never let ANY person go cold for any reason. My husband used to be the same way. I know its just the fact that M is a male friend of mine, and husband is not ok with me having male friends. Husband has continuously started fights and arguments with any male friend of mine, just because. I had another male friend who is dating my best friend over bc he was waiting for bestfriend to finish at the store while all of our kids played together. Husband came home from work and was so mad there was a man here he locked us both out of the house and hasn't spoke to my friends boyfriend since. When I tell him that his jealousy is out of control he ultimately tries to justify it by saying he knows every male friend of mine is not really a friend, rather someone trying to get in my pants. We used to be able to go out with friends, have gatherings, and even invite friends over. But anytime another male is in the vicinity of me he starts acting like a completely different person. He'll swear he saw my BIL look at my butt, or my best friends husband stared at my chest, and use that as an excuse to treat these people badly and end the hangout, and I dont really believe every single guy is coming on to me or attracted to me. The man I married would never have been so jealous and controlling. I remember men whistling at me while we were walking together and he'd laugh it off. Nowadays I feel like it would be an actual physical fight if that happened. Its embarrassing to me, and in not ok with the way he is acting at all. What can I do?
TL;DR: My husband has become extremely jealous and treats every man in my life horribly. I dont like this version of him and wish he'd go back to how he used to be.
Submitted May 06, 2021 at 10:55PM by kinky114 https://ift.tt/3hmjvSX
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