UPDATE: Should I(21f) confront my mom for lying about who my biological father is, or should I just let it go and keep the family happy?

Original Post: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/mnnb3j/should_i_confront_my_mom_for_lying_about_who_my/

So I(21f) talked with my mom really late last night and got all the information I needed.... I know it is really prying but I learned so much lol.

So turns out IVF is like super expensive and they did not have a lot of money when we were younger, but they wanted to grow their family. The whole reason for the "sperm donation" clinic lie was for my mom's parents who have since passed and she does not feel the need to hide it from me anymore. My dad is apparently BI, which is a huge surprise to me because he gives no outward appearance of being BI.

Mom and dad met other men to conceive us and they just really liked black guys. Mom also loved the idea of having mixed kids so it just sort of intentionally got pregnant this way. I'm lowkey kind of happy that it was not cheating so I am glad that I asked but kind of also surprised that they intentionally wanted black kids and that mom and dad both did that lol...

Mom told me not to talk about it as it would be potentially emberassing for brothers and dad, so I will leave it at that. I am happy for the family I have and although the whole conception story is super weird I don't think that affects us now anyways. Parents are NOT vanilla after all.

Also, I feel kind of bad for arguing with my dad about how he doesn't understand the problems I had because he was a "white man". But I think he gets it after learning all this.

TL;DR Mom didn't cheat or use sperm bank, turns out it was all on the up and up the whole time.

Submitted April 11, 2021 at 03:14PM by ThrowRA-BlackHeiress https://ift.tt/3uIYoxy