My bf of 5 years and I broke up briefly, but got back together shortly after. We have lived together for 3 years. I have been unhappy and depressed for the last 2 years. He is a stoner, and loves playing video games. He doesn’t spend much time with me and I started to push him more away because I don’t like weed nor video games. I started to blame him for influencing my choices so much and making my life so miserable. Covid was so isolating. I didn’t sign up to be trapped indoors for a year with this guy who barely spent time with me. Once lockdown ended, I left him and returned home for 3 months. It was suppose to be a reset for us, but I started to not wanna go back and he started to realize how much he resented me for bringing so much negative energy into the house.
I hate where we live, but it’s where we both have jobs. He likes it and wants to settle here. We ended up breaking up because of different goals, negativity, lack of connection. It was very painful...
I asked for another chance, and he agreed based on a few conditions. He wants me to work on the negativity, try to make our place feel like home in this city, and he needs to feel like I want to be with him there.
I plan to go back in 1 month to try to fix things. He says it will take a lot of time to rebuild trust but we are both willing to try again by creating a budget, scheduling time for each other. I am in therapy to cope with the negativity and will try to like the city we live in.
Is this a lost cause? Are we just kidding ourselves because we are so fundamentally different? Or can things really change?
TLDR: dating bf for 5 years. Lived together for 3. Unhappy for the last 2 years due to covid and stress. Broke up because we separated for 3 months and it seemed like we were better off without the negativity. Fundamentally different values.. but got back together to see if there is any salvaging because we still love and care about each other. Is this worth it?
Submitted April 03, 2021 at 09:17AM by putchaiko https://ift.tt/2PUBZOu
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