I’m black (29F) and my white BF (29M) of 2 years and I have different political views and it’s causing a strain on our relationship.

He’s a great and supportive partner BUT

He’s fiscally conservative, socially liberal, and i’m liberal. He’s a vocal person and he expresses dissatisfaction at certain things - the liberal media spinning stories (i agree that the media is deceitful on both sides and he does too), the corrupt state of Illinois, Chicago getting worse under a democratic leadership etc. I believe both sides play games with their constituents because in the end, politics really is about money but he believes the democratic leadership is worse at this - ok whatever I don’t care that much about who is worse.

He says he sees both sides of the argument but for someone who believes that both sides have faults, he doesn’t ever express dissatisfaction at the republican side of things. You know when your partner is reading something and you can tell it bothers them and you want to know what it is - it’s usually something along the lines of dissatisfaction with democratic leadership or the media. It’s never about humanity or human rights.

It saddens me that when he chooses to express dissatisfaction at something, it’s not what’s going on with the George Floyd trial, or the current attack on Asian Americans or sex trafficking charges - I believe those issues are more important and affect actual lives. And I’m sure he agrees. He’s not some terrible human who lacks any empathy. But there’s all these crazy national news going on in the world, but what stresses him out is the lying media and democratic leadership????

Today he brought up the police killing of a young latino kid and he said “how is this not national news?” I digged further because i know damn well he doesn’t really care that much about the killing of Latino folks - and it turns out the actual issue was that he felt it wasn’t gaining national recognition by the liberal media and they’re hypocrites.

I have expressed my opinion on this multiple times and this time he denies it has anything to do with his opinion of the media but “why is this not gaining national news!” When you bitch all the time about the terrible liberal media.

Like I have to sit at dinner and listen to opposing views from him parents and I have to go out in the world as a black woman and experience various micro aggressions like people thinking I don’t live in our building because I’m black as well as micro aggressions at work and in society - he’s noticed these things - and what my boyfriend chooses to stress out about is the liberal media???

Is the solution to never bring up politics? - I know this has worked for us in the past but it makes me feel like we are sweeping our issues under the rug.

Any other insights?

TLDR: my BF and I have varying political views and it causes arguments because I feel like he doesn’t care about the more important issues in the world.

Submitted April 02, 2021 at 11:56AM by flowerbomb92 https://ift.tt/3sOf3iq