I(24m) feel really insecure about my girlfriends (24)ex boyfriend who is a NFL player. How do I feel less insecure?

Before I type this out I just want to say I know it’s insecurity. I know it. Rationally I know I shouldn’t worry but this is just something I’m trying to deal with and I don’t know how.

From ages 19 to 22my girlfriend was dating a college then NFL football player. The guy about 3 years older than her, and he eventually broke up with her after a few seasons playing.

I’ve been dating her for 6 months now and I found out a few weeks ago. It turns out I heard a lot of stories about him already. She always had said my friend instead of my ex. Like when her friend bought her a car, took her to Hawaii, was able to get her all the jewelry and things she wanted that I can’t afford.

There’s also the fact that we physically are so different. He’s a 6’4 260 guy made of pure muscle. I’m barely 5’9 and have a normal build. I just feel embarrassed, like I’m constantly competing with him even though he’s not in the picture anymore.

I find myself question if she’s anywhere near as physically attracted to me as she’s was him, or if she misses how much more money and take her head. I don’t know I should try to feel better about this. She still mentions things like trips she took with him and everything and it’s rough hearing it.

Tl;dr my girlfriend dated an NFL player before me and it makes me feel really insecure. How do I deal with these feelings?

Submitted April 01, 2021 at 01:58AM by throwRA-jealousyNFL https://ift.tt/3migMKv