My mom has been trying to clean out our basement from our move since last year, and she's been doing it alone for the most part. I help when I can on weekends and some weeknights, but I work full time and also go to school full time too. I have a younger sister who also tries to help, but she can only do so much when I'm not around and Dad refuses to help. He comes home, goes to his room, turns on the TV and runs downstairs to scoup himself dinner before going up to watch whatever or take a shower after eating, and he does this while my mom is usually cleaning the basement herself, a task she's been committed to finishing whenever she has the time
She's stays at home, and a couple of weeks ago, she pulled a muscle that the doctor gave her medication for, and she had to stop working on it for a little bit. Fast forward to recently, and she's begun to go back in the basement again despite not being 100% over the injury. I tried to convince her to not work on it if no one's home out of fear of last time (along with not at all until the injury completely healed), and for the most part she didn't, although sometimes she still does. The reason I'm writing this though is because of what happened during the snow storm that has happened over the weekend
Dad went to work early, and I shoveled myself out in the morning while it was still coming down, since I had to leave around the same time he did for my shift. However, since it continued to snow, my dad called my mom around midday and told her to shovel the driveway despite her recent injury when she's supposed to be treading lightly and doing nothing physical yet. I've told him off in the past for refusing to help her in both the basement and other areas around the house too, but I was at work and didn't learn that she had fallen and had to call a neighbor for help until after it happened
I left work early after receiving a call that she did shortly after, but dad didn't even pick up when she called him, but he did when I did and I cussed him out for telling her to work when he knew she was hurt, but he told me that he's not splitting my tuition in exchange for disrespect, and he was irate when he returned home to a barely shoveled driveway. When he came inside later, he yelled at me about yelling at him on the phone while he was at work, and he also yelled at her in his room for not getting it done and making him "have to do more work"
I've talked about him to a professor before who then recommended I go to the counseling offices that they offered to student freely, and it was my counselor who told me to tell her not to work on the basement if no one was home, along with other ways to deal with his behavior. However, in light of what happened yesterday with her falling, I've reached my breaking point with how little he fucking cares about her, and I want to do more and I'm researching ways to do so, but I also figured it can't hurt to hear more suggestions here on ways to go about it
TL;DR: My mom has been working on clearing out the basement alone because dad refuses to help her do that or other household chores, and over the weekend's snow storm, he asked her to shovel the driveway on an injured leg that he knew about before he got home
Submitted February 03, 2021 at 08:25PM by ThrowRAwinterynights https://ift.tt/3oMXjBl
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