My son and my daughter recently got into an argument (one of their many) about their political differences, and this one I wasn't aware of because it happened while I was at work. I work from 8-5 every day, and my husband works longer than that. We've caught a few arguments on random occasions and tell them that home should be where you feel comfortable to talk about whatever you feel comfortable talking about, although if someone doesn't want to hear it, you should respect their request/space
Well, after their latest argument that (I later learned) ended on bad terms and a few insulting words/jabs, my son played a prank that turned out horribly. He went into her room and took her journal behind her back, and then proceeded to show another friend who had come over. However, unbeknownst to him while going through it together, he came across something that was in regards to an abortion that she had somewhat recently, and his friend probably (from what he told me) saw this too at the same time he did
Well, the reason I found out was because that friend told someone, and before long, some people who had no business knowing about it at school learned of it, and I'm currently in the process of deciding a reasonable punishment. At the moment, he's grounded from playing games and hanging with friends after school, although the latter is somewhat irrelevant with school I feel, along with how he doesn't really hang out as much because of the pandemic. My husband says we should go further, but that's what we have so far before a call with my parents to get their opinion on what/if we should do anything more
In regards to the argument, my son had said something about her support of the former president from what they later told me a few days after some found out, and my daughter is very upset and embarrassed and avoiding my son, so I wanted to ask for advice on what to do, along with if we're handing it properly
TL;DR: After a political argument between my son and daughter, my son inadvertently told his friend (who told another friend and so on) about an abortion that she had that was supposed to stay in our family, and I'm just trying to get advice on how to best proceed further, along with how to best be supportive of her during this situation
Edit: While me and my husband are more left-leaning personally, we believe that they are more than entitled to their own opinions, but stand against the invasion of privacy that our son displayed. My husband is also considering going to the friend/friends who spread this and maybe even the school, but I also wanted to get opinions on what to do, along with if that last step would be necessary. We're considering more punishment at the moment, but video games and hanging out with friends was our first step
I'll be the first to admit that we've dropped the ball in many areas, prioritized work over more time with them, and could have done a much better job being parents and people. However, around the time of the abortion, we received a lot of pressure to talk her out of it from some, specifically a cousin who she wanted to reach out to for advice on what/how to do, although she instead began hammering bible stuff down her throat using terms like "murder and ungodliness/unholy" and other things that were the opposite of comforting when they met, along with telling some other family members too. We did our best to stand up for her, telling off some relatives including her for spreading it, although we did also warn our daughter that people have a tendency to share things that you sometimes tell them not to, but she wanted to meet with her cousin anyway because they were close. In regards to politics, we've explained what we believe and why on occasions when they've asked (and some times when they didn't), but if they have different views from ours, I'd like to believe we do our best to encourage them regardless because they are their own people. Some other family members who our cousin told, have tried to tell us that while she live in our house, she HAS to follow our rules INCLUDING NOT ALLOWING her to have an abortion, and we stood with her and told them that regardless of living situations or anything, the decision is hers alone, we cannot and will not force her, and that they were wrong, and that led into other sorts of arguments as well about our beliefs and stuff like that. So, while not perfect and far from it with many mistakes, I am trying my best, and my husband is too, and perhaps this is a wake up call to adjust our schedules and take more time with our family, but we're just trying to figure out the best way to handle this current situation
Submitted February 02, 2021 at 12:43PM by Slide_Radiant https://ift.tt/36UMmaX
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