My(30f) BF(30m) has a habit of saying what he 'bets' I would do in situations, and recently it's moved onto my art hobby. I don't know how to talk to him without seeming like I'm over-reacting and can't take a joke. Together 3yrs.

Myy BF is constantly saying what I would do in situations or what he 'bets I've done'. Only jokingly but stuff that makes me out to be dopey/lazy. E g any TV show situation "You'd do this" If I mention going somewhere "You'd get lost and do this" I mention getting an exercise bike "You'd only use it for 5 mins." And I have social media where he doesn't and he predicts "I bet you've posted about this on Facebook." (I don't post personal stuff on FB and have told him this 100x) I've got mixed opinions and people have said it's just a quirk he has, but others said he's trying to 'control the narative'.

One thing I've bothered me is that I do art commissions and one thing I'm stern on, is I don't like people seeing stuff until I'm happy with it. It's just a personal insecurity because art is my thing. My BF ALWAYS asks to see stuff early which I guess is nice, but I always say no I'll show it when it looks okay, I hate showing stuff before I'm ready to. He fishes and he hates people looking when he unhooks the fish, so I've never asked to see after he told me the first time he's not comfortable. I just think it's healthy to respect eachothers feelings on stuff like that even though it might seem small to ourselves.

Occasionally I'll share something that's completely finished on my social media but that's very rare, and again not until it's finished. My BF doesn't have social media, he doesn't understand it and makes weird comments about me having it. Even though I never go on it for long.

He went fishing last night and text asking what I was up to. I said I'd been painting these clay sculptures but they didn't look good and I wasn't happy with them yet. He replied asking if he could see, I said no and repeated for the 100th time "I really hate showing stuff before I'm happy with it."

He replied "Dont be silly! I'd love to finally see some bad art of yours so I can have a laugh! Besides I bet (there it is again) you've already shown everyone on social media and I'm the last to see it."

I haven't replied I ignored it, because if it's just a dumb joke no harm no fowl, and he has an issue he can be an adult and talk to me rather than being passive-aggressive. I feel it's the same as me saying "Can I watch you unhook the fish? Don't be silly! I'd love to watch you do it so I can have a laugh when you struggle." Am I over-analyzing this or is this concerning? It seems to me he:

1) Wanted to check I was doing what I said I was doing.

2) Didn't accept that I wasn't comfortable showing some art before I was ready to (again).

3) Wanted to laugh at some of my shit art (this one isn't too bad it could be a joke) but he could be trying to put me down.

4) The predicting my behaviour again (wrongly saying I would post it onto social media.)

What do you think I should do about this? I'm not sure if I'm being paranoid.

TL:Dr: BF asked to see some art I said wasn't going well despite knowing I'm uncomfortable showing stuff until I'm happy with it. Made comments to try and get me to show him, and tried to predict that I'd already shown it to people on social media.

Submitted February 18, 2021 at 03:31AM by AztecMuffin200 https://ift.tt/37pAe1w