30F (me) 28M (brother)
I left a relationship about 9 months ago. To begin with my ex was good. He progressed things very quickly and said he loves me within the first month. He also talked about kids and marriage. A couple months after he told me a major incompatibility (he can’t be with someone of my background because of his family) that he knew about before we started the relationship. He offered no solution or the want to fight for the relationship. He treated me extremely hot and cold for a while. Sometimes telling me I look like a cartoon character, sometimes being very abrupt with me and angry. Anyway it ended after he told me he’s not in love with me. It lasted a few months overall but the fact it was so high then so low really hit me.
This all happened during the quarantine so I couldn’t see anyone/having anything to look forward to after the breakup and I sunk into a depression where I couldn’t eat or do anything. Slowly I have managed to climb out of it since then and I’m almost back to what I was before. Although I think about him, this doesn’t stop me from getting on.
Last week, I saw him as we live in a similar area. We didn’t talk but it just brought a lot of things back and I was upset for a little. But again I am fine now. I was talking to my brother and he brought him up in a conversation. I told him I learnt a lot from the experience. He told me to stop thinking it meant something and the relationship meant absolutely nothing and how I’m an idiot for being affected by it. Any advice?
TL;DR: I feel that I can’t be open with my brother because everytime I am, he jokes about my experiences and tells me I shouldn’t feel anything. I feel like my feelings aren’t valid and that I can’t talk to my family about anything.
Submitted February 17, 2021 at 02:07PM by purplerobot2021 https://ift.tt/3dkWCNy
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