My (23F) boyfriend’s (27M) family is trying to set him up with other people even though we’ve been dating for 3 years.

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 3 years. We’re very serious about each other and have talked about getting engaged in the next year or two. His family is very important to him. I’ve always made an effort to get them to like me because I know how much they mean to him. And I thought I’ve always left a good impression on them, until today.

He told me his aunt, who he’s very close with, has been having concerns about us because I haven’t attended any of their family’s major parties or holidays recently. These gatherings are always very large with no COVID precautions taken at all (a lot of his family tend to downplay the pandemic). His family is very touchy-feely with everyone and they love to hug, share food/drinks, invade personal space, etc, which would be fine if COVID wasn’t still a thing. I live with two high risk individuals and I can’t risk their health/lives. I’ve communicated to him that I won’t feel comfortable attending these gatherings with his family until the pandemic subsides a little. Still, despite this, I did attend a few major holidays with them over the summer when the pandemic wasn’t at its worst.

After he told me his aunt was having concerns, he also told me that this same aunt, his dad, and one of his cousins have been trying to set him up with a woman they know. They’re all very much aware that him and I still in a committed relationship, but apparently that doesn’t matter to them.

I feel incredibly disrespected and hurt that they would all collectively do this knowing that we’re still dating. My boyfriend is also pissed, but maintains that they only feel this way because they haven’t seen me in so long. Still, I feel like the solution to that would be them wanting to get together in maybe a smaller setting, not completely disregarding me/our relationship and trying to set him up with someone new altogether. Any thoughts on where to go from here? I’m worried that his family wanting him to see other people is going to put a major strain on our relationship, even though he says it won’t. I can’t even fathom how uncomfortable and self-conscious I’m going to feel being around his family now that I know how little they think of me. If/when I do see them again, do I even mention any of this? I feel like it’d be the elephant in the room if it wasn’t addressed. Any advice would be appreciated.

Tl;dr My boyfriend’s family is trying to set him up with someone new because they haven’t seen me in a while, despite knowing we’re still in a relationship.

Submitted February 15, 2021 at 02:36PM by LRL4150 https://ift.tt/2NtZc9d