My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years exclusively. We tried an open relationship style because it was something he was interested in, but stopped immediately because it wasn’t something I could handle. He has been hanging out with his co-worker (21F) for the last month about once a week. At first I felt indifferent towards it, but have since started to feel uncomfortable about it. Last night he told me he enjoys spending time with and being around her, but is unsure if he actually has feelings for her. He asked me if I wanted him to stop hanging out with her, to which I responded with a resounding yes.
This afternoon we spoke about it again, and he told me he still wants to hangout with her, and is going to do so despite knowing how I feel about. He said that he has no interest in letting his ‘feelings’ develop further, and says that if he believes it will threaten our relationship, he will end it. He says he enjoys having her as a friend as they have things in common. He spent an hour on the phone with me today reassuring me that I’m his number one priority, and that he loves and wants a future with me. And that this is not worth being upset over.
My main issue is if I should trust him and be okay with him hanging out with her, or put my foot down and break up with him for doing something that will hurt me. I am aware of how silly I must sound when I say this, but I know without a doubt that he won’t cheat on me and that his love and feelings for me are solid. What I’m afraid for is the future. If he develops actual feelings for her, and they get reciprocated, what will happen then.
TL;DR My boyfriend said he enjoys spending time with his female friend and despite me saying I don’t want him to hangout with her anymore, he says he will continue to do so because that’s his friend and he doesn’t think it will become serious.
Submitted February 16, 2021 at 12:57PM by la_primera https://ift.tt/3jVLBU4
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