Im 19, female, dating my 18 male boyfriend of 7 months. He wants a family, to live close to his family. I don’t want to have kids, and I wanna move around a few years for work after graduation, and then likely settle down near my family (like 2 hours away from his family). Clearly these don’t match up, and we tend to just never talk about future plans. Every now and again he will bring up like the future of having kids and that whole idea just makes me uncomfortable. I’ve also been thinking, is this gonna work out? So I’ve started bringing up my desire to move around a lot a bit recently (I’m studying to become a biologist and want to do field work on the oceans, and we live in the Midwest). I’m thinking about getting a summer internship like ten hours away and he knows about that and is supportive, but I don’t think he believes me when I say that’s the type of stuff I wanna do for the rest of my life, or at least for a few years.
I don’t know what to do, because we are young and maybe I’ll change my mind and want kids someday, but I will feel bad if I can’t give him that. Am I too young to know, and should we just focus on the present and not the future? But I also don’t want to just be in a relationship just for fun, I want a promise of the future.
TL;DR! my boyfriend wants kids and I don’t, but we’re only 19 so should we not make a decision about our relationship based on that.
Submitted February 04, 2021 at 07:56AM by fairefire https://ift.tt/3oWt23e
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