Parents (56 M/F) had a huge fight during Thanksgiving, won't talk to each other and asking me (28M) to help them out what should I do? Non-Romantic

I'm pretty bummed out by the whole ordeal and want some advice.

Anyway I decided to go visit my parents for Thanksgiving the first couple of days went okay, they had some issues with cooking the food but everything was pretty normal and enjoyable, but the last 2 days I stayed went terrible, all of a sudden my dad blew up and started this huge fight with my mom calling her names and going on this huge rant that lasted an entire day, threatening divorce, and all this stuff. Naturally my mom started yelling back and it was just a mess. I felt so bad, made me feel sick for a few days just seeing my dad treat my mom like that even after all the hard work she did. Now for some reason my Dad hasn't spoken to my Mom since then.

So yeah my parents unfortunately seem to fight alot, I guess that's just how marriage is. They've fought ever since I was little kid, just screaming and yelling.

I got my Dad out of the house hoping to calm him down, my Dad started ranting to me privately the reason he's so angry with my Mom saying he hates how she isn't taking care of her car, hygiene, or cleaning the house as much, and about to get fired from her job and all she cares about and talks about is her dying Mom. I tried to explain to him that Mom is going through a painful time this year, and she feels she has a duty to help my grandmother, and that marriage is about sticking together through the good times and the bad. Unfortunately that didn't phase him and he may have got even angrier as he told me if he's ever dying don't ever help him out. So yeah wasn't making alot of sense.

My Mom tried to ask me privately about why my Dad was angry and initially I told her I don't know, but she kept asking so unfortunately I fucked up and told her basically what he told me but sugar-coated it saying he was just worried she spends too much time helping Grandma, and she got super angry and started going on a long rant about how my Dad is cold and heartless.

As for some backstory to this current fight. I do know my Mom at least has been under massive stress as her boss (unfortunately based on what my Mom told me her boss, personally hates her and is trying to make the job way more insane than it actually is) is threatening to fire her from her job , and unfortunately to compound on this her own Mom, my grandmother, is very sick, she's been sick for quite awhile but her condition has gotten alot worse due to catching COVID-19 so now she's near death, and she found out her nursing home has been neglecting her so my Mom has been trying her best to try to find some way to help her and find a new nursing home, and this stress has taken a toll on her own health and such.

My Dad also because he's considered an essential employee at his workplace has increased hours at work but being salaried, he doesn't get increased pay, and this has been bothering him as well.

I honestly don't understand this argument, and I wish they'd stop fighting, but I don't know how to help them.

I wish they would come visit me for Christmas, wanted to do something special for them, but the way things are going I'm having doubts we will have Christmas together.

TL;DR: Parents are fighting and refuse to speak to each other and they keep complaining about each other to me, what should I do? I don't understand this fight, it seemed to have started because my Dad is angry with my Mom spending too much time helping my dying Grandmother?

Submitted December 04, 2020 at 12:31AM by oraclexeon https://ift.tt/3qqY8Sh