My (34f) boyfriend (33m) just broke up with me on Christmas Eve -- do I still have to give him a ride to his parent's house 2 hours away??

History: dating 3 years. Last year I basically stayed with him all the time (at his request) but kept my apartment too.

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Last month he had to move to a different condo which was a bit smaller, so I took a lot of my things back to my apartment. I have minimal things at his place now but still stay there often. He is just subletting until a larger condo becomes available in the new building, and at that point our tentative plan was to move in together.

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Just some background...he doesn't drive (I do). We've been having a lot of issues lately, with lots of arguing. He's become very passive aggressive and I feel like he picks on me a lot over all kinds of minor things. However, I've been hopeful we will be able to work through our issues better after the holidays (I know he's stressed out due to being furloughed).

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Our plan was to spend Christmas Eve together and then I'd go home but come back on Christmas morning to celebrate with him. His parents live close to my sister (2 hours away) so I was going to drive us out there tomorrow for a few days (he'd stay with his parents, I'd stay with my sister).

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I came over tonight and everything just went wrong. He was snippy with me over everything. I got Indian takeout (at his request....my treat) and he decided he wasn't hungry. I brought eggnog (he said he'd love if I could pick some up) and then when I got there he didn't want it. He definitely wasn't in a very festive mood. I wrapped presents alone while he watched a movie. He then started picking on the tree I decorated for him. Saying it looked very "sad" and everyone else had really nice trees (started showing me pictures on facebook). Saying our celebration wasn't very good (but keep in mind he did the bare minimum to help).

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I felt upset, so I left a bit early (but not by much) and told him I'd see him in the morning. After, he texted me saying we both know it's over and it's the last holiday we have to spend together.

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Given how awful he's being towards me (and I still don't even really know why), I told him that's fine, but I won't bother waiting until next year to not celebrate more holidays with him....I don't want to celebrate this one either. He asked me to please just "get through this holiday with no drama and we can go our separate ways". I don't want to. I think he's being cruel and selfish.

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Is it wrong of me to not drive over there and get him to bring him 2 hours away to his parent's house? Does that make me petty?

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tldr: boyfriend broke up with me on Christmas Eve but still wants me to drive him 2 hours away to see his parent's tomorrow.

Submitted December 24, 2020 at 09:05PM by Ok-Test229 https://ift.tt/34LLjJg