My [32F] best friend [32F] and I had a miscommunication over a wedding invite, and now she's extremely upset and I feel terrible

My best friend is getting married on Saturday. We've known each other 15 years and have always been very close. If these were normal times, I would likely be in the wedding party, like she was for my wedding, but, as you've probably heard, there is a pandemic happening. Their venue has a max capacity of 20 people right now. So when an invitation didn't come in the mail, I assumed- I think reasonably- that my husband and I hadn't made the cut.

Well, my friend and I were chatting on the phone earlier today, and she was telling me about all the final preparations for this weekend. I said something to the effect of 'take lots of pictures so I can see how it all turned out!' and to make a long story short, it turns out she HAD sent us an invitation that we never received. Apparently most of the guests didn't formally RSVP because they knew it was so small, and she assumed- again, I think reasonably- that of course we were coming. Now it's too late for us to go, because I work all weekend and I'm supposed to be running a training event that I can't back out of.

She did not take this news well. Lots of crying, followed by anger, and then more crying. I told her I'm sorry about a million times, but of course, that doesn't make up for missing one of the most important days of her life when she thought I'd be there. I feel like a royal tool for not clarifying things earlier, but there's not much I can do about it now, as I said. Any advice on what I should say, or how to make this up to her???

Tl;Dr- My friend is getting married Saturday and I thought I wasn't invited because of Covid restrictions, but it turns out our invitation just got lost. It's too late to change plans now. She is not happy about this.

Submitted December 02, 2020 at 05:56PM by Altruistic-Bite81 https://ift.tt/3g0rcLK