I have been wanting to talk to my mom about how my stepdad treats my two younger siblings (both in their teens) and me [f16] but i have no idea on how to go about doing it in a way that'll create the least amount of conflict possible.
He says horrible things to us, puts us down almost constantly, calls us names daily, and occasionally gets physical or threatens to get physical with my brother. My sister wholeheartedly agrees with me, but my brother seems to be seeking validation from him, so he rarely goes against anything my stepdad says. I am truly unhappy living here. I went no contact with my biological dad a bit longer than a year ago so it feels like there is no escape.
So here's the thing. My stepdad will sometimes check my phone to see if I've said anything to my mom about him. If I have, I get my phone taken away. Any time I try to speak to my mom about how he treats us in person, either my stepdad stops me, or i tell her in private. This can go one of two ways. Either she makes up excuses (ex. he had a hard day at work, you guys are annoying him, etc.) or she speaks to him about it and it evolves into an argument where he threatens to leave her for "picking sides." It breaks my heart when that happens because all she is trying to do is protect her kids.
I don't know what to do at this point. I feel like I can't talk to my mom about it without it evolving into something worse. I want to stop feeling hurt about the things he says. Is there a way I can talk to my mom to get it to stop, or do I just stick it out until I can move out in a few years?
TL;DR - Any time I try to speak to my mom about my stepdad's emotionally abusive behavior, she either bushes it off or it turns into a huge argument. How can I go about talking to her in a way that'll make her understand the pain we're going through? Or do I just stick it out until I can move in a few years?
Submitted December 01, 2020 at 07:40PM by throwwawway6 https://ift.tt/3fYxgUZ
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