My boyfriend and I both graduated from college in June and moved in with our families since we didn't have jobs (thanks covid). We were previously somewhat living together - different studio apartments in the same building. We've been together since the start of college so 4 years.
I was super lucky to get a job back in July that pays well but not enough to afford a decent apartment on my income alone. My boyfriend is still looking for a job but called me today excitedly telling me he has a strong lead with a company he interned for. He started talking about areas we could live as soon as January if he gets the offer... and I realized I'm feeling a bit apprehensive about moving out?
Living with my family isn't amazing - my relationship with my mom can be a bit rocky and everyone is WFH so the house can be a bit loud and chaotic.
But over time I've grown to like living in a loud, busy house. My bf probably can't work remote, so I'd be alone during work. I feel like I'll get lonely :(
Also, my parents are decently well off so I'm living in a large spacious house in a really nice area. I can see mountains and forests from my window. Moving to an apartment in the city would mean a >1000 sqft apartment with no views of nature. So a pretty big downgrade.
It'll also be difficult to visit my family when I move out :( I'd be living about 35 to 50 minutes away. I don't have a car and it doesn't make sense to buy one when I WFH. (Also car insurance is expensive af). I can't drive my boyfriend's car since it's manual. I've tried learning but it's really difficult and I just don't have time. Also, if I'm living in the city and around people more often, I don't want to risk spreading covid to my parents.
So yeah. I really miss living with my boyfriend but I'm feeling some reluctance about moving out. I'll need to eventually to start going into work a couple times a week but that won't be until July at the earliest. My boyfriend hates living with his family and really wants to get an apartment with me asap.
And one last note - I adopted a cat a month ago and both me and my family adore him. Whereas my boyfriend doesn't really like him because of mild allergies. I feel guilty about my family not being able to see him when I leave.
TLDR: Living with my family is nice since I'm never lonely and it's a large house in a nice area. Feeling reluctant to move out to a small apartment in the city with my boyfriend.
Submitted December 02, 2020 at 12:29PM by supernova-vibes https://ift.tt/3qmRkVH
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