My first lenguage is not english, sorry in advice.
Background:
My dad (47M) was diagnosed with hypertension in February. Consequently of this the doctors told him he needed to change completely his life. He didn’t do any exersice, drink and smoke a lot and eating whatever he wanted before this. The problem is, he have been strugling to change. In the next almost nine months he had been in the hospital four times for not following his new diet. We have tried to help him, but he just don’t want to us to do anything for him and hates when we remember him he should be doing what the doctors said (we do not do this all the time because you know, he's an adult) and that we hate hospitals as much as him.
Two weeks ago my parents had a fight about something I don’t know. Before that, thing were good, or so I thought, but somehow it did feel a little off like there was something happening, I don't know.
That fight ended up bad, because the next thing I know is was my dad telling me that he was going to left home. I asked with where is he going, he didn't tell me, maybe thinking I will go to looking for him. I asked him for how long is he going and when he is coming back. He didn't answer me that either. He said he needed some time alone, that he hasn't feel well. I tried to talk to him, wanting to help him and even offer him going to therapy. He refused. He said he just needed time alone. I said okay, but then he said that while he was out we are going no contact.
Being honest I didn't expect that coming. I understand the fact that he need time for himself, but not knowing where he is or when he is coming back, even if he is coming back plus his medical problems wasn't something I feel comfortable, but what else I could do? Besides, he had the same conversation with my mom this and following his words she told him "take the time you want, but don't come back".
I though that was it, the next day I was expecting him to pack his staff and go. But he didn't. He didn't leave the next day even. Not because thing were okay, my mom was sleeping in the couch and they didn't talk to each other.
That bring us to today. My dad hasn't left the house, but he acts like we didn't exist. He, obviously, is not following his diet. He won't talk or have dinner with us. He stop doing his chores in the house and told my mom he is not paying the bills. And while I'm sad for this situation, I'm more curious about how easily is for him to act like this, because at the end he is not taking time alone, he is just pretending he doesn't have a family.
I don't know if I should talk to him or talk to my mom, even if I should say something in general. I will apreciate any advise.
TL;DR My parents had a fight two weeks ago and my dad had been acting like we don't exist since then.
Submitted October 25, 2020 at 09:03PM by juneraez https://ift.tt/2HzxCog
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