Let's call him T.
When T and I grew up together he was always the odd one out in our group. Kids liked to pick on him for his weight and his tendency to lie, myself included...perhaps I was even the worst of them in some ways.
As we aged, my other friends began disliking him more and more. They didn't enjoy his habit of exaggeration and the way he constantly lied (simply a child's defense mechanism), nor his harsh bitterness. As they pulled away, I befriended him even more, trying to be a positive influence on him and admittedly to make up for some of the hurt I'd done. We had become best friends in some ways, while he simultaneously still held a lot of animosity...
The problem is. As we all grew up, T didn't. T's trauma and abuse had soured him. His lying became an inflated sense of ego and self-grandiose thinking. His harsh bitterness became a dark sense of justice that he reserved for...well...at this point the whole world.
After years of trying to help him, including welcoming him into my friend groups (where he instantly wreaked havoc, getting one girl pregnant, causing rifts between others, and threatening others), loaning him thousands of dollars, giving him a free place to sleep, rides, food, alcohol and drugs, paying for his cell phone and bus tickets, fixing his resume and applying to jobs FOR him, supporting him getting mental health help, and literally giving him the clothes off my back...
After literally years of this, I finally cut him off last year in the summer. I had to. For my own sanity.
The thing is...he still obsesses over me. Over my friend group. He sends hate-filled messages to me over Reddit blaming me for all the bad in his life, he tracks my posts and comment history and leaves dark, angry, blaming comments, he messages my sister and other people in my life saying the same hateful things, and he posts on reddit regularly about it too. I've been tracking and documenting it for a while, because quite frankly I fear for my safety sometimes. And also for his.
I'm at a loss for what to do. He refuses to get mental health help, which his old friend group asked him and supporting him in doing. He seems to be deteriorating and I'm not sure what to do.
TL;DR: ex best friend who grew up in abuse and trauma won't stop obsessing and blaming me for his past, follows all my reddit posts and comments on them, sends dark messages to me and my family/other friends...
Submitted October 24, 2020 at 01:42PM by methandfetamemes https://ift.tt/31H8geX
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