I [24F] noticed a while ago that my boyfriend [26M] stopped showering. Then I got to thinking, trying to remember the last time I saw him perform any kind of personal hygiene. We moved in together in March of 2018...and I've never seen him brush his teeth. I've purchased him multiple toothbrushes. We've been together for over 5 years now, I met him when I was 17 and got together at 18, and cannot remember a time when he brushed his teeth. Is this weird?? Am I just imagining it? He doesn't have good breath and his teeth probably aren't in great condition.
Then comes in the showering. A few months ago, and this is before work from home policies and quarantine, I noticed that to get clean he would only lean over the side of the tub and wash his hair, and this didn't happen daily. This was kind of just a twice or three times weekly thing. He'd take long showers once in a while, but I know he isn't cleaning himself. How do I know you might ask? Because he doesn't fucking own a body washcloth/loofa/scrubber or whatever you want to call it, nor does he own body wash. He's not using my products either, I made it very clear to him in the beginning not to use my loofa because I think you shouldn't share them and it would be super gross to do that. He has smelled pretty bad for a long time now, he wears the same clothes every day and doesn't wash them. I went through six months when we started living together of washing his laundry and putting his clothes away before I got fed up with it and refused to do it anymore. It's not like he works crazy long hours, we have pretty much the same schedule and paygrade and contribute the same amount to household finances.
I am losing my mind. I snapped at him the other day, told him to clean up his own piss off the floor and toilet seat because he does that S O often. And this morning I saw gross fingernail clippings in the sink. Just chilling in the sink, when the bathroom trash can is right next to the sink. I asked him about it, he said he'd done that and asked him not to do it again.
Are my standards too high??? I was so annoyed I picked him up a loofa and body wash while I was at the store. How do I talk about this topic with him in a way that is polite? And before anyone asks, no he doesn't suffer from a mental illness that would cause him to do this. I think he just doesn't care. He also sucks ass about cleaning / doing chores around the house too. I'm at my wit's end guys, what do I do?
Tl;dr My boyfriend of five+ years has very poor personal hygiene and I really need help to figure out the best way to bring this up to him.
Submitted July 04, 2020 at 04:40PM by caaaatloaf https://ift.tt/2C3tKc0
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