Hi everyone. So here’s a bit of backstory: prior to dating my fiancée I was in a terrible 2.5 year relationship that started off great but the guy turned out to be a manipulative liar and drug addict in which I was constantly heartbroken and hurt. He was aggressive and abusive but then would be loving and sweet. I ended up leaving him around the same time I met my current fiancée.
So I knew my fiancée previously through friends but never really talked to him. We started talking just after I had broke up with my ex and I realized.. wow this guy actually treats me so well! He was a complete opposite of my ex.
We have now been together 3.5 years and he asked me to marry him in December in which I said yes because In the moment/at the time things were great and I was excited. But here lies the issues: I used to be very attracted to my fiancée. But now I just don’t see him as super attractive anymore and don’t look forward to being close (kissing, cuddling, sex) like I used to. I don’t know why this is happening and why I don’t look forward to those things anymore.
During this pandemic I haven’t seen him much and I don’t miss him like I used to miss him when we were in the early stages. Our goals no longer align as much. He settled with a minimum wage job where as I went back to school to go to med school and I just graduated and am working now. He doesn’t have drive anymore or motivation. I feel we have less things in common now. In the first 2 years of dating we travelled and had fun and I always wanted to spend time with him.
But now that’s changed and I enjoy my alone time and avoid hanging out.. he has also become somewhat of a pushover and I just don’t see him as “growing up”.. he still lives at home in his parents basement With no thoughts of moving out on his own yet, he also can’t afford it.
I see other couples so happy. I want to be totally obsessed with my man!! My last relationship was shitty but I was like sooo in love /crazy over my ex and I just don’t feel that way with my fiancée anymore. The love on my end sort of feels like it’s just withering away as I see less and less in common and just don’t feel as attracted to him anymore.
The problem is I can tell he feels the opposite and he’s constantly texting me and wanting to hangout and FaceTime and wants to be with me all the time if he could. He spent SO much of his money on my engagement ring so I also feel the guilt of that. Is it wrong of me to call of the engagement or should I keep pushing forward in hopes things will change and go back to how they were?
TLDR: been with my fiancée 3.5 years, slowly losing feelings the past months and not crazy about him anymore. Don’t care to hangout. Wtf is wrong with me? Should I call off the engagement?
Submitted June 03, 2020 at 07:48AM by StaceySK1 https://ift.tt/3gU2Xi6
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