Honestly I feel like i'm going crazy. I love my boyfriend and trust him with all my heart, we've been together for about 7 months now and he's proven himself to be nothing but honest and good. I can start by saying I know that I have trust issues coming from multiple relationships in the past where i've been cheated on so I am a bit more observant of how other girls act towards my boyfriend, and the way his boss has been acting has been bothering me big time.
He is 22 years old working at a financial institution in a higher position than people way older than him and with more seniority because she fast-tracked him, she is 30 years old and single. When we first started dating he told me about his work relationship with his boss and said they were very friendly. He told me that they sit in her office for hours just shooting the shit and talking, but that they have a secret agreement between the two of them that they can say whatever they want to each other and they aren't allowed to go to HR or report each other for anything. She also told him that because he's such an amazing employee he's also allowed to show up late to work and won't get in trouble which he does often and other managers constantly complain and get mad, to which she defends him. This was kinda weird to me but I figured it's better to have a good relationship with her than to not.
So valentines day comes and he requests to trade his shift because he made dinner reservations for us, she tried to deny the switch which he fought and ended up getting the evening off which really bothered her. She texted him twice throughout the night while we were on our date together just to make sure he was going to go home early and get to sleep because he had work in the morning and she wanted to "make sure he'd be there." After that I started to think that her intentions towards him aren't just that of a boss checking in on her employee. Since then there are just constantly weird texts coming in from her, literally begging him to go out for drinks with her (he had to say no 4 times in the same convo), sending him stupid memes that just "make her think of him", refusing a day off he requested because "she needs her time with him", and also posting a photo on his facebook wall with a winking face talking about "damp panties". She also sends him screenshots of her conversations with other people talking about how great he is "just in case his ears were ringing". It's all super weird for me, as a boss I feel like she shouldn't be acting this way towards her younger male coworker, he doesn't see it as flirty at all.
It came to a tipping point when I drove him to work one day and accidentally locked my keys and my phone in my car, so I went into his office to call my parents to come with the spare key... Oh my god she absolutely lost it. She literally yelled at him in front of the entire branch and made him go in her office where she kept him and gave him shit for the next 20 minutes about me being there. She then kicked me out of his office and made me wait in the boardroom while still freaking out and going on and on about it and everyone was staring, it was so unprofessional of her and embarrassing for me. There are so many other tiny things that just don't feel necessary to throw in here but this is a continuous thing.
I would love some advice here because I don't know what to do, am I just overreacting? It's not like she's done something insanely over the top to make me feel like I have to do something about it but it makes me uncomfortable every day he goes to work knowing that she's so sketchy. I have communicated with him many many many times how I feel about all of this but he thinks that if he says something to her or does something about it she will make his life hell or he won't be able to advance at work anymore, what do we do?
TL;DR! My boyfriends boss gives him special treatment, sends him inappropriate texts/memes, and is way too obsessed with everything he does.
Submitted June 25, 2020 at 09:09AM by emnoodles https://ift.tt/31hytBi
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