TLDR: My boyfriend of 7 years feels hurt and disposable that I would leave if he changed his mind about having children. Help.
My(29F) boyfriend(34M) of 7 years and I always wanted to get married and have kids. He recently told me he is not sure if he could bring kids into this world in the current conditions (COVID, racial tension, etc), and he doesn’t really see the state of the world improving. I told him if you don’t want kids I am done. He hasn’t decided completely on the kids thing but he is extremely hurt by my comment, he feels like the potential kids are more important than him, like he would be second to the children, and he feels disposable. I feel like I am being made out to be the bad guy over something I think most women would agree with. How can we both understand each other perspectives better?
Edit to add: He feels like me being a mom is more important than the 7 years we have spent together, and I don’t know what to say about that. I told him it would be deeply upsetting for him to change his mind about such an important issue. My harshness in my delivery of the dealbreaker stems from him not proposing after purchasing a ring almost 3 years ago, so I am worrisome he has cold feet about everything and this is another excuse.
Submitted June 04, 2020 at 03:52PM by desperatehousecat2 https://ift.tt/3dAk4DN
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