So I (20M) have been in a pretty stable relationship with my girlfriend (20F) for about 4 years now. About a year or so into our relationship, she came out to me as bisexual. I had absolutely zero issue with this and supported her fully, and our relationship has never had any problems.
Just recently, and I’m not even sure how I started thinking about it, I’ve started to wonder about my own sexuality. Throughout my life I’ve had an attraction to certain guys before. I had a phase when I was 13/14 where I thought I might be bi, but more or less dismissed it and didn’t think about it.
So I opened up to my GF this past week and started by asking her how she discovered more about her own sexuality. She said “well, I knew I was always attracted to women just as much as men, and I kissed a girl b/f and just knew I was.” I followed up by telling her I was pretty sure I was bi myself. She was taken aback by it, then laughed and says “Babe, no you’re not”. I was just embarrassed by it and told her that I wouldn’t open up about it if I knew I wasn’t or had any serious doubts. She says it’s ridiculous and there’s no way I didn’t think about it by now, and that it’s okay and she feels accepted by me just fine.
I ended the conversation by calling her a huge hypocrite and leaving for the night. She sent me a bunch of texts saying I took what she said the wrong way and she really didn’t mean I “couldn’t be”, and it was just weird to her. I told a close friend about it, and he said he didn’t think either of was in the wrong and she was probably just caught off guard by it, and maybe I mishandled by leaving too soon.
The thing is, how could she have been “caught off guard”? I just don’t understand. How do I proceed from here? Is there maybe something I’m missing?
TL;DR: Told girlfriend I was bi, she doubts it. I called her a hypocrite based on her shared experience.
Submitted February 09, 2020 at 09:43PM by TURL54 https://ift.tt/3bnKxUl
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