My girlfriend (25) has insecurities and demands that she needs to go thru my (30) phone before she’s able to trust me; and by the fact we look thru it together means I’m hiding something.

My girlfriend of just over a year has had some serious insecurities left over from her previous boyfriend. She’s stated that every relationship she’s been in there’s been issues with social media. Every single one. At first I was willing and pleasing her. I went thru my social media and deleted everyone she wanted. I unfollowed anyone she disagreed with.

She gave me ultimatums about Social media and our relationship but thought me giving in would ease her mind. She systematically started going thru my follow list and looking for any pics I liked “involving a selfie or pic of just a girl without her boyfriend”. Huge red flag. I couldn’t go to the gym or hiking without 10 texts from my girlfriend questioning why I liked certain pics. We had a talk and she was going to stop over analyzing and talk to me about stuff instead of assuming the worst.

Now going into 2020, I mistakenly told the story about how 4 years ago, my ex, stole my phone and locked herself in a bathroom and went thru my phone. It was during a fight and nothing came to be about it. My ex gf was just a super jealous type that actually was projecting her self Onto me. We broke up cause she cheated on me. Flash forward to now... any time I take pictures of her, we go traveling together or anything where pics are taken she wants my phone to air drop herself. I started saying I’ll do it don’t worry.... this has gradually escalated to her thinking I’m hiding stuff because I am the one “air dropping” from my phone.

Today, she went to brunch. Got drunk and came home demanding I give her my phone or she’ll never trust me. And brought up the story with my ex. I opened my phone and started showing her whatever she asked.... we go thru texts, pics and then she wanted my phone to herself. I said no.

By doing so, I’m accused of hiding something and she can’t trust me. She demands to give her my phone and goes on a rant about how I’m cheating and she’s over it. All was fine before she went to brunch and I’m at a lost. I walk out on her. I go on a walk and come back to my place and she’s passed out on the couch.

Literally after all the social media issues, and how I’m accused of always up to something while giving her so much control over my phone. I’m at a lost.

TL;DR My girlfriend has always an insecurities with social media. Every previous boyfriend she’s had there’s been an issue. Now, after giving into her previous wants.... who I can or cannot follow on social media... she now demands I give her my phone to look thru and by doing it with her together I’m hiding something. I feel I can’t win or prove myself.

Submitted January 04, 2020 at 04:40PM by spaceloogic https://ift.tt/37AwOa4