Ex(32) of 7 years wants to stay friends with me (28F), although his gf(26) is uncomfortable with this. How to proceed?
We were together for 7 years and broke up because we became more like 'best friends who shared a bed' and the relationship had ran its course. We remained best friends for about 2 years after the break up.
His new girlfriend who he has been with for over 2 years is uncomfortable with our friendship. She insists on reading every message we exchange and only wants us to hang out when she is around. I don't think it's any of my business to dictate the terms of their relationship and would rather stay out of it, so I have taken a step back.
It gets complicated, cause he calls me every couple of weeks (I only just found out without his girlfriend knowing) to catch up and insists that we are 'best friends' and always will be. I don't consider ourselves best friends any more, mainly cause we rarely see each other and don't have much involvement in each other's lives. I have asserted this with him, but he becomes very insistent.
I recently found out that they had a big argument which nearly lead to them breaking up as a result of him and I hanging out and I told him that it might be best that we aren't in each other's lives anymore, but he broke down in tears, telling me he would be miserable not knowing me anymore. Of course, I do miss his friendship, but I have had to accept that things are different now and I just don't want to cause any issues in his personal life, cause I want him to be happy.
Am I handling this right? How can I proceed with this so I am not causing any conflicts in their relationship?
***TL;DR***:
My ex boyfriend and I broke up as our relationship turned into more of a friendship and we stayed very good friends after breaking up. His new gf of 2 years is uncomfortable with our friendship, however he insists on staying 'best friends'. Although I miss his friendship, I don't want to create any issues in his relationship. How to proceed?
Submitted January 04, 2020 at 12:10AM by ladysnowbld2 https://ift.tt/2ZVALDM
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