My husband (38M) just unloaded a laundry list of things I've (38F) done to upset him going back years. All things he originally agreed to.

My husband and I have been married 15 years, together around 20. I have been going back to get an MS and now a PhD for the past 4 years while working part time. My husband has a fulltime job and basically supports the both of us on that.

Last night basically out of nowhere he got angry. He hardly ever gets angry. He told me that he was upset I "forced him" to move a good distance away from his friends and family to live closer to my school. He said I already had friends here and he didn't.

Prior to making the decision to go back to school we talked about this. He fully supported me going back to school, and he said he would come with me rather than doing long(ish) distance for a few years. Also we lived here for 2 years prior to COVID and he hasn't done much to make any friends. He was even the one to buy a house here, even though I didn't contribute he has always considered everything "our" money and put my name on the title.

He also says that we always do whatever I want and I don't do what he likes. This is because any time I ask what he wants to do, 99% of the time he responds with "I don't know", but if I suggest something he quickly agrees.

He also brought up how EIGHT YEARS AGO I slept in a hotel room with another man. I was going to school to get my BS and we had to take an exam that was scheduled on the opposite end of the state, about 6 hours away. The person I was studying most with was a 20 year old boy. He had literally no money to get there or stay over. I felt bad and asked my husband if it would be ok if I drove my study partner there and we slept in separate beds in the same room. My husband agreed. He didn't even seem remotely bothered at the time and made a comment about how it was unfair the school expected kids with no money to get there and back.

I told my husband I would never do it again, but that scenario has never presented itself in the EIGHT YEARS since it happened.

Am I going crazy or do I have to accept that when my husband says "yes" he might not actually mean yes?

tl;dr: Husband upset at me for things he agreed to. How do I help?

Submitted September 23, 2021 at 07:39AM by Regular_Mycologist61 https://ift.tt/3CHdozI