I feel like my boyfriend hates me and I feel paranoid about it.

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So my (20f) boyfriend (20m) and I have been dating for a year and few months now. We have a somewhat nice relationship, we hang out and enjoy each others company, our sex life is good, we have similar interests and all this stuff. But there's a problem that I have that makes me feel like I'm unreasonable and controlling whenever I bring it up. He refuses to let me hang out with his friends. We've been together for more than a year now and I've only seen his friends twice.

All his male friends have girlfriends and there are also girls in the friend group, some of them have boyfriends, some are single. All of the friends who have partners usually bring their partners around unless it's a guys night, except me. I'm never included. I've brought it up to my boyfriend several times that I want to feel included too. That I think he doesn't care about me enough to let me know his friends. His friends even tell him to bring me too and always ask him why I'm not around. They probably think I don't want to go when I do want to. My boyfriend just doesn't let me. His answer to that is that he doesn't want to mix his friendships with his girlfriend and I have no reason to be around his friends and him hanging out with me should be enough.

For the record I have my own friends but it's a very small group, we are 3 people and he also refuses to see my friends as well. He met them once and not again after that. He refuses.

Recently one of his friend's girlfriend reached out to me on Instagram, started a casual convo and she said she wants to meet up just the two of us to get to know me. We met and grabbed some coffee and she started asking me about my boyfriend. I was saying nice things and didn't complain about being excluded but she brought it up herself. She says that she has understood that my boyfriend is excluding me on purpose and he's also been rude to the other girlfriends being present sometimes and makes fun of his guy friends for being simps. She said the group is starting to distance themselves from him because he's always negative and judgemental. After that she told me to take care and make the right decision.

I assume she meant breaking up with him. And I've considered it. But I need closure on why he's like that and so adamant about not meeting any of my friends and lot letting me hang out with his.

Tldr ; boyfriend completely excludes me from his life and I feel like I'm doing something wrong or that he hates me

Submitted September 23, 2021 at 06:21AM by Throawaygirlfriend71 https://ift.tt/3o1CrJW